Attention Brides-to-Be and those: “Serious about my Boyfriend”

Apparently, Christmas is among the most popular times for marriage proposals. I heard about a few of them over the holidays. Then, Valentine’s Day is just up ahead. That got me thinking…

The following statements contain things that a few mid-life women I know wish they had asked themselves and their potential spouse when they were dating or engaged… Sometimes, things that you don’t think about at all now might become issues in your future.

In between make out sessions, ask him strange questions like:  “What should we do about childcare when we’re both building our careers?”

“How and where will we spend the major holidays each year? With your family? Mine?”

“Do you believe in God?”

After you tell your friends, “Oh my gosh, he is soooo hot!”, call and ask him, “Will you still date me after we’ve been married ten years? Twenty?”

“Do you want to relocate to another state? Another country? How often are you willing to move for a career?”

“Do you support abortion? Do you think it’s okay to drive while buzzed?”

If you haven’t yet, ask yourself these questions:

How important is it for you to live near your parent(s) and/or sibling(s)?

Does he fully support your work? Will he after you have children?

Does your groom-to-be or serious-boyfriend have faith? Do you? Can you do this life without it?

“You accept the love you believe you deserve.”
If your “love” isn’t treating you as well as he should be, why keep dating him? Why do you think he’s the “best you can do”?

Have you fallen “in love” or “in lust”?

During any of your dates, has he watched the TV at the restaurant more than look at you? No, not “all guys do that”…

Be sure about your life mate. Be choosy. You deserve the best.

(Photo credit: Tiffany & Co.)