Ashley Madison Revealed More Than Real Names

A few months ago, the Ashley Madison website scandal received considerable media coverage. For those few who are unfamiliar with the website, (like I was), the site’s tag line is: “Life is short, have an affair.” “….the world’s leading married dating service for discreet encounters.”

Apparently, Ashley Madison was the safest place to hook up as a married person, until hackers released “millions of users private, real names”, leading to Ashley Madison becoming a national news story. It received days-long media coverage because many of Madison’s customers were famous, and the number of users was excessive (over 37 million according to reports).

Millions of users?

Do you think that at least one of those millions was a parent?

Do you think that the parent ever told their child not to use their real name on a social media website?

Do you think one of those millions ever told their kids to be careful with their credit card information online?

In the words of Forrest Gump, “Stupid is as stupid does”. I don’t exclude myself from the mass of humans who has engaged in some very dumb decisions, but I try to avoid deliberate, purposeful idiocy. I’ve often told my kids that I do plenty of spontaneous sinning, so I attempt to exercise self-control with the temptations that require contemplation.

The scandal simply revealed the state of society’s backward principles, making that the greater news story here. Affairs will carry on, with or without Ashley Madison. But, Ashley Madison revealed “millions”. (The site is over 42 million presently.) This extraordinary number shines a flood light on the increasing comfort we have with immorality.

How did the deterioration of traditional values and lack of self-control get to this point? One of the contributors might be that we tell our kids one thing, but blatantly engage in the very activities we tell them not to do. And, hey, we all know how difficult it is to practice what we preach. Again, I do not exclude myself from the struggle.

Parenting is hard. Marriage is hard. But, it is imperative that we indeed practice, not just preach.

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